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SAMMIE, MY CO-WRITER

I am experiencing many great marketing events lately.

This week a film crew came to my home to shoot a video promoting my book Monastery to Matrimony, A Woman’s Journey. First I was interviewed on camera by Monica who focused on general questions about writing: Is it my passion? What did you hope to accomplish? Why did I choose to self-publish? What advice do you have for those considering publishing? After the interview,  Josh, the videographer, filmed me in different settings where I wrote in my home.

They wanted my cat, Sammie in the picture, so I roused her from her sleep on the lanai, brought her in to sit on my lap while I attempted typing on my laptop. Her favorite annoyance when I wrote on my desktop computer was to jump up on the desk and lay across the keyboard. Cats love to be in the center of activity.

Sammie is sometimes exasperating, but I tolerate the old girl’s need for attention because she is TWENTY-ONE years old this month. She came to my rescue after I lost my husband; I needed her company and someone to care for. I rescued her when she had to leave her home after seventeen years with the same family. I figured who else would want such an old cat. We are two seniors enjoying each others company.

Today I will be interviewed on another online radio show. Tami Urbanek, author of Loving Conner, expressed interest in having me on her  show, Journey For Truth.

 Marketing is an essential part of publishing a book. Writing is gratifying and challenging, but marketing is a necessity. There is no satisfaction in having boxes of books collecting dust in the garage. I actually enjoy promoting my book. I find talking to people at book signings, interviews, and speaking opportunities rewarding. In speaking, I not only talk about writing the book, I also share “The Steps to Moving Forward in Life.”

Watch for my video on my website. Listen to my online radio interview on Tami’s show which will air October 27.  http://empowermentthroughhealing.org/?page_id=69

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SAMMIE, MY CO-WRITER.

 

 

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What’s A Nun?

Catholic education has changed in the past fifty years. The scarcity of nuns probably has something to do with it. The content and teachings in Catholic schools is the same, but the face of it is different. No longer are guests greeted with a nun in full habit or even a modified habit. Nuns are no longer on the scene at all in most Catholic schools.

Recently a teacher friend of mine in a Catholic school talked to her class about my book, Monastery to Matrimony, A Woman’s Journey, telling them that I had been a nun. Their response was, “What’s a nun?”  We were both surprised. After a brief reflection, we realized that of course they would not know.  They had never seen one.

The number of nuns who left their religious communities in the 60s and 70s, including me, resulted in the closure of numerous Catholic schools, especially elementary schools. Some remained open when the laity stepped up to  fill the void. They do it with great sacrifice monetarily. They teach for the love of teaching and the love of their faith. People of parishes make sacrifices to support the schools to fill the financial gap left when the cheap labor of the nuns was no longer available.

A religious life as a nun is still a viable vocation. Many women are joining religious communities in their late 20s, 30s, and even 40s. Many are answering a call that they resisted their early years. They come from teaching, the corporate world, legal profession, and other diverse occupations. However, the numbers are not adequate to fill personnel needs in schools, nor does the diversity of their talents fit an education model.

From my perspective of the twenty years I spent in the Benedictine community of St. Mary Monastery, www.smmsisters.org, I can truly say it is a good life, a life of service and one to be considered for women seeking a prayer life and complete dedication in God’s service.

The harsh customs depicted in my book are no longer practiced in todays communities. For example, today sisters would be allowed to spend time with family as needed at the death of a family member.

Catholic education will continue and it will grow thanks to the dedicated laity. The number of Catholic nuns will grow, but they  will be participating in various works while standing up for the poor, the neglected, the sick, and those suffering injustice.

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BOOK PROMOTION

Writing a book is a major accomplishment. Getting it published takes a double major effort. Then marketing it once published is a forever project. How many times do you hear of people who self-publish a book, order hundreds of copies, and leave them stacked in their garage or closet never to see the light of day.

I was determined not to do that. I felt if it was worth writing, I had to believe it was worth reading. I knew I could not work hard enough, nor would I live long enough, to give it the exposure it needed, so I solicited the help of public relations personnel. As a result, the book is being recognized far and wide. I am trusting that the recognition will result in sales.

Yesterday, I had the fun experience of being interviewed on the Christian Television Network. I appeared on the show Homekeepers with Arthelene Rippy. She devoted a full eighteen minutes to enthusiastic promotion of my book, Monastery to Matrimony. Her questions were focused and tantalizing to viewers. Her genuine interest and curiosity about my convent life will no doubt prompt people to search for my book. She made it known that it is available through Balboa Press.com, my publisher, Amazon.com, e-books, or directly from me at maweakley4@gmail.com  The studio taping was in Largo, FL and will air during the week of October 6, 2014.  The program can be seen on the Christian Television Network out of Tampa, FL. It will be readily available to audiences with sattelite reception on the CTN channel. It will also be on my website.  See the SCHEDULE page on my website for other marketing activities.

The more books that are sold, the more I can contribute to the COPE Fund. The ministry for educating children in Pokot, Kenya, Africa—Children of Pokot Education—receives a portion of the proceeds from sales of Monastery to Matrimony.

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I HAVE HOPES FOR THE CHURCH

Monastery to Matrimony, my memoir, might be considered a journey through modern times in the Catholic Church. My twenty years in an Illinois convent gave me a perspective not only of how convent rules and practices changed over the years, but also how the Church changed.

Midpoint in my twenty years introduced the first hope for the Church to be in step with the thinking of its people. Pope John XXIII introduced the documents of the Second Vatican Council in 1962. In his wisdom he saw how the Church needed to be open to the people it served. He recognized that nuns could better serve by coming out from behind the heavy gated walls. He urged them to return to the mission of their founders, a mission to work with the poor, the sick, the neglected, the suffering under injustices. He set in motion a refreshing new role for nuns in the institutional Church.

In the years after Pope John XXIII, his legacy dimmed with the succeeding Popes. Not all of them agreed with his foresight.  Today the Vatican is underestimating the independence of the intelligent religious women of convents. They are not accepting a return to dominance by the Bishops of the Church.

With the election of Pope Francis in 2013, I have hope once again. He is not cut from the same cloth as his predecessors. First of all, his cloth is that of an Order priest, from the Society of Jesus Order, (Jesuits). He has lived a minimalist life  in common with his brother religious. When elected, he immediately rejected the elaborate trappings of previous Popes in everything from his simple clothing, to his car, and living accommodations.

For the future I see a Church that is open and inclusive as evidenced on Sunday, September 15, 2014 when Pope Francis married twenty couples at St. Peters in Rome, including couples who had lived together, which is considered a sin in the Catholic Church.  As he has said, “Who am I to judge.”

My friend Father Joseph Breen of Nashville, must be rejoicing at this news. He has long preached the same message of inclusiveness and never judging.

 Next, I am hoping that Pope Francis will eliminate the practice of Nullification of first marriages required for a divorced person to marry a Catholic. (See my own experience in Chapter Twenty-Four of Monastery to Matrimony.)

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THANK GOD FOR CURIOSITY!

As I wrote on my HOME PAGE, I believe curiosity is a valuable trait to cultivate. It’s a type of gymnastics for the brain. Thankfully, many people expressed a curiosity about what my life was like in the convent. If they hadn’t, I may never have written my memoir. A comment from one reader from Jacksonville Beach, FL confirmed to me that my book responded to those curiosity seekers. “My few brief, casual encounters with nuns made me curious about their lives, and your book gave me so much more insight.”

Many wise folks recognized the importance of curiosity.

“Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  ― Walt Disney Company

Mr. Disney describes my life. I kept moving forward, often out of curiosity, but sometimes out of necessity. There is no point in looking backward. That’s over and done. We should live our life in the present. As for the future, my philosophy is to ASK, EXPECT, and RECEIVE. And don’t worry about the how, when, or what as you focus on the PRESENT.

In my memoir I characterize many of the rules and rituals as “archaic” during my years in the convent, though practices have changed in modern times. Today nuns are recognized as intelligent, thinking, responsible women, capable of making decisions on their own behalf.

While the prayer life in my Illinois convent is the same today, silence may be relaxed a bit, and I don’t think they are required to get on their knees to ask for a penance for accidentally breaking a dish. I doubt that anyone would break it out of frustration or anger. Today their ministries are varied, based on their interests and talents rather than  strictly on the needs of the community, whether or not they are suited for it.

Many readers have asked how I could have endured the unnatural silence, the humiliating times I knelt for a penance over insignificant things, the attempt at stripping individuality and personal possessions, and the separation from family.

Though I knew nothing of the reality of living the life of a nun when I entered, I was prepared to accept whatever it entailed. I knew there would probably be sacrifices, but I lacked knowledge as to what kind of sacrifices. Praying the Divine Office several times a day in the chapel was a normal expectation. Just about every other practice was a revelation. The daily silence—even at meals—was the most difficult to understand. I could never get my curiosity satisfied in the couple of hours of recreation allowed for talking each day. If I hadn’t gone to boarding school prior to entering I doubt that I could have accepted the lack of communication with family that the convent required. Being away from home at boarding school conditioned me to some degree.

I continue to look forward and satisfy my curiosity on a daily basis. Other than during the writing of Monastery to Matrimony, which called for considerable revisiting of times past, I don’t look backward. Even the process of writing was a way of looking forward. I had a curiosity for learning the craft of writing. Today in the process of promoting the book, I am delving into the world of media—traditional and social. Mr. Disney was indeed correct when he said, “curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”

Follow my website, maryannweakley.com, or visit me on my Facebook fan page or Twitter profile to see where my curiosity leads me next.

 

 

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WHY I WROTE MY MEMOIR

1425741_10204728174263956_566161260933187896_nWhen I look at Facebook and see a post of my neighbor Robin sitting at the beach with my memoir propped in her lap, I think, Who knew it would be a beach read.

Robin’s comment, “It was hard for me to put it down,” reminds me of why I pursued my dream of writing the story of my twenty years in the convent.

With many friends, business associates, and even strangers, who learned of my former life, I found a recurring curiosity about the convent. To a person, they were surprised that I would have been a nun. Guess I didn’t fit the image—maybe because they knew me as an interior designer. A litany of questions always followed: What was it like? How long were you there? And always ultimately, the tough question—Why did you leave?

Most questions were easy to answer, but the “Why did you leave?” question always left me hedging my response. It was a simple question, but it had a complex answer. One I couldn’t adequately explain in a sound bite. The answer is filled with emotions that needed to be put to rest. It called for soul searching if I was to get it right. I knew it was time for me to share my convent life experiences and address my own feelings about the occurrence that set me on the decision-making path to leave the convent. The answer would be as much for me as for others.

Thus the book was incubated.

Since the publication of Monastery to Matrimony  in July, 2014, I can now legitimately say, “The answer to that one is in the book.”

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BOOK LAUNCH

Publishing your book is just the first step. Next you must let people know about it. It does you no good to spend years writing a book only to order copies and keep them in your closet.

I began the promotion process by announcing the pending arrival of the book on Facebook. Preorders were taken and filled when the box of books ordered arrived. I held an “Opening-the-Box” party at my house for the neighbors who anticipated the book. They brought flowers and wine. We took pictures and toasted the event with champagne. Then I began a whirlwind of booksignings during a two-week tour through Tennessee and Illinois. Former writing groups hosted two of the signings, a third was hosted by a friend at a private house party. To announce the signings, I sent advance press releases to newspapers in the areas. In addition, the schedule of dates, times, and locations were announced on my website www.maryannweakley.com and on Facebook.

Back home again, I will continue looking for ways to promote the book at book stores, churches, clubs, or anywhere there is an interest. I generously hand out bookmarks, business cards, and post cards. I will utilize social media in everyway I possibly can. Follow me on Facebook and Twitter @maweakley

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TIPS ON WRITING

I find find helpful tips on the blog info@daily writing tips.com . Some days I read it, but do not save the information. Other days it is spot-on with the exact answer I needed that day.

I belong to the Writers League of The Villages, FL — where I live. We often have great speakers. Recently I heard Rik Feeney usabookcoach@gmail.com of Orlando, FL give a talk on Editing: 11 Easy Steps to Improve Your Writing. Rik is a Book Coach, consulting with authors to write, publish and promote books. He has published numerous books and is a sought-after speaker.

Here are just some of his tips:

  • Take some time off, 48-hours to a week, to distance yourself from a freshly written piece. The edit the writing for clarity and competence.
  • Eliminate one word out of every ten . For example, words like “and, or, but, nor, so, and that” and almost every word ending in “-ly”
  • Remove excess “its.” Too many “its” can lead to confusion. Use the name or a noun instead.
  • Exterminate He’s and She’s and Him’s and Her’s. Replace with the proper name of the person. Instead of “He climbed the hill after her.” Try, “Jack raced up the hill after the girl of his dreams.”
  • Read your writing out loud. You will be amazed at the mistakes, or awkward phrasing you will find. It may have sounded right in your head, but doesn’t work on paper.
  • Use the five senses in your writing. Bring the story alive by incorporating the five senses. For example: Sight, add descriptions of color, lightness, darkness, speed of motion.

Rik says, “No book is perfect.” That is a comforting thought for me since my first book is being released in mid-July.

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Watch for MONASTERY TO MATRIMONY, A WOMAN’S JOURNEY. Find it at Balboa Press bookstore www.balboapress.com , on Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble, and on Ebooks, and For a personally signed copy, contact me at maweakley4@gmail.com. Balboa Press is a division of Hay House Publishing in California.

 

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DON’T GIVE UP!

DON’T GIVE UP!

To all writers, my message today is, DON’T GIVE UP. It has taken me almost ten years off and on to get my book to completion. There were times I would rather do the dishes or the laundry, than sit down to that annoying ever present computer screen.

Today I am working on the final galley of my manuscript—at least, I hope it is the FINAL galley. Though MONASTERY TO MATRIMONY, A WOMAN’S JOURNEY, was the main book I wanted to write, I know the next one will be easier. I will actually follow the advice I had received from speakers at conferences, other writers, writing group critiques. I am passing that advice on to you:

o   Don’t edit as you write—just get the first draft done.

o   Don’t revisit and rewrite yesterday’s writing—move on.

o   Schedule a daily writing routine—then follow it.

o   Join critique groups—listen to feedback.

o   Rewrite, rewrite, rewrite, and rewrite again.

o   Ask people you trust to read it and give an honest opinion.

o   Pay a proofreader/editor to work it over.

o   DO NOT submit to a publisher, magazine, or anywhere until you have checked and rechecked every line, every word.

ENJOY BEING A WRITER

 

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I’M BACK

It’s been a long time since my last post. I have shamefully neglected my blog. Perhaps some of my followers are still out there. I welcome you back.

What can I say, life happened. Jumping to the bottom line – in May, 2013, I moved to The Villages, Florida with my rescue cat, Sammie. More about The Villages and Sammie later.

Through all the changes I have kept up with my writing. I had promised to share my pursuit of writing and  publishing my manuscript, and I still will, but I will have to backtrack and fill in the blanks.

As of this summer, I will have my first book published by Balboa Press, a division of Hay House Publishing in California. After much searching of self-publishing sources, from the simple to the complex, Balboa seemed the best fit for my book and for me.

Monastery to Matrimony, A Woman’s Journey, my memoir, will become a reality soon. I promise to keep you posted, and let you know the steps on my path to publication.

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